Have you ever loathed Valentine’s Day? While many look forward to celebrating the annual day for lovers, countless numbers of people hate February 14th. If one is single, especially not by choice, watching others celebrate their love-lives can be painful. I can remember as a “twenty-something” believing that if I only had a man in my life, that my existence would be just perfect. Oh, the ignorance of youth.
A healthy couple is comprised of two healthy single people. And becoming that healthy single person is not easy. It takes work, lots of self-examination and a willingness to take brutal honest looks inside. The hardest part can be making changes following that authentic examination.
Being a healthy single person is something many people in relationships have never been. And oftentimes, their relationships pay a toll because of that. As a good friend said recently, “I wasn’t in therapy till I met my boyfriend.” Getting help along the way is a wise move.
So, if you are single, celebrate you. Take pride in “becoming” what many people in relationships are not. As a wise person said once… “Becoming is superior to being.”
GLBT people already face more than our share of self-esteem issues. Being single should not be one of them. That’s not healthy, but being content and at peace certainly is.